Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them
broken than hurt yourself trying to put it back together. -Unknown
I am at a phase in my life right now where I’m struggling with loneliness.
Everything that was once familiar has now changed. I could choose to
spend my days feeling alone, on the surface still part of the
relationship, but deep down feeling emotionally detached and distanced
from him. Here is what I’ve learned about dealing with loneliness:
- I started to understand that I needed to accept my loneliness as a true emotion. It would not just softly fade away, no matter how hard I tried to numb my feelings or look for distractions.
- Sometimes you just need to give yourself a break, making space during those times when you need to rest and restore. Go at your own pace. Understand that you are your own best teacher. And only you will know when it feels right to take the brave step out of your comfort zone into the unknown.
- While learning to stay with uneasy emotions, I realized that I didn’t need to find a speedy resolution for the difficult feelings. It’s okay to feel lonely; it’s just one of our many human emotions. There was no need to force myself to search in all the wrong places for the solution anymore. I am certainly not the only single person in the world.
- Try and enjoy the freedom that comes from being detached. Appreciate the opportunity to gain introspection on yourself. You may even discover new interests or familiarize yourself with old forgotten hobbies now that your life has shifted focus.
- Accepting that there is nothing wrong with how I am feeling gave me the grace to relax. There is no problem right now. I know that eventually life will change again; it always does.
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